Spiking of Drinks

I think it is a problem but I've also never seen so many young girls absolutely plastered through drink, through pre-loading before they go out and drinking strong cocktails throughout the night in town. I'm not surprised many can't remember whole parts of the previous evening.

I don’t like the idea of staying at home as a protest for all the obvious reasons. We’ve all been there, starts as a large group that throughout the night gets smaller and smaller. You’ve got too pissed too early, Going off with some girl you’ve met to get jiggy. Suddenly need a dirty kebab from the plastic box merchant. Someone’s throwing an after party back at their digs and this is where the danger comes about and it’s not just women that need to be careful. Yes people have the right to go about their lives in safety and security but there are a lot of nutters out there. It’s that groups duty to make sure everyone gets home safely and would be a better route of action rather then staying in as a protest.

I think the spiking of drinks has always been an issue, from adding more alcohol to somebody's drink; pretending to drink a drink to get somebody to drink more; all the way to date-rape drugs. But like many things, social media gives it far more coverage and I suspect that date-rape drugs are easier to get hold of now as there is more general drug availability. 

Sadly, the way to avoid it is the same as it always was, much of which has already been said.  Including only drink a drink that you've seen poured and has been given straight to you and never leave your drink unattended. And don't go anywhere alone. Although I recognise that if you want to take matters further with somebody, that may be impossible unless you fancy a threesome, but if you're too pissed to know what you're going to do, then you should not be going anywhere and a friend should take you home.  

I honestly thought this was going to end “….and when the roofies wore off she discovered she’d married me.”

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It's been a well publicised problem for many years and I remember seeing all the warnings (aimed mostly at women) when I started drinking over 20 years ago. I've been out and got hammered on a number of occasions in my youth but only one time at uni do I truly have no recollection of what I got up to. During my first year at uni I went to the student bar but only the next morning did I have one of my angry female friends come to my door to tell me I'd practically fallen through the door to her room at 3am when she'd had a couple of mates from home stopping over who had to help her escort me back to my room. I didn't do anything dodgy I was just being a complete knob! I'll never know if I drunk something I shouldn't have but I've never had that experience again even after some pretty heavy sessions since. Our halls were off campus so how I got back there in one piece is anyone's guess.

I know the warnings about not being alone when drunk are aimed at women but you can be equally vulnerable to a mugging or worse as a man if you allow yourself to get so drunk even the taxis won't take you home. I remember once out clubbing in Bournemouth a mate disappeared and we later found he'd been chucked out and was so drunk the taxis all told him to do one so he did. Walked back 10 miles to his home the other side of Poole including along the hard shoulder of a dual carriageway (he knew he went that way because he ended up home with some of the signs from the roadworks!) OK it's a funny story bit it wouldn'thave been if he'd been run over.

I think the warnings are getting louder at the moment because of the recent murders of Sarah Everard and the two women stabbed in the park by that devil worshiper last year. There was also a recent case in Nottingham of a drunk girl being raped and murdered. Understandably a lot of women feel that enough is enough and not enough protection is being given and in many ways I'd agree, however as a man I hate the way we're all being labelled as some sort of predator. But equally as a father of two girls I do see how men should be made aware of how very low level stuff such as looking at a girls arse in the street makes them feel very uncomfortable and I wouldn't like another chap doing that to my girls when they get older. I know it's a bit extreme to suggest that if you think it's OK to look at a girl with a low cut top you'll probably end up raping her - of course 9999 out of 10000 men won't, but that doesn't mean that it's OK and that women somehow appreciate the gesture.

One thing I've always done, no matter how drunk or otherwise intoxicated I may have been, was to make sure the female members of my group got home safely. Even if it meant me or one of the others walking miles out of our way.

I've never understood the need or desire to drug someone for the purposes of gratification. I'm no Adonis. I'm also ginger, but it has never stood in the way of my ability to attract members of the opposite sex by just talking to them. Must be a fragile male ego thing. Thankfully, nothing has ever happened to any of my female friends, or I may have ended up serving time for GBH or attempted murder.

We all lived in hope!

I try to do the same, but in Singapore crime is less of an issue (it's not non-existent but mostly it's relatively safe here). So sometimes if the girl insists she'll be ok on her own I won't force the issue.